Dear Parent, cultivate a habit of encouraging your child in all circumstances.
“Panguza makamasi ama nikugonge kwa hii ukuta! ” Wipe your nose or else I will hit you on this wall. Such statements and more are what kids grow up hearing from the people they adore. If you observe such kids in school they don’t perform well. They rarely participate in activities in school and it is not that they don’t have the capacity to do so. The environment they are in has made them believe that they are not good enough. Very early in life, they develop self esteem issues.
Such kids will be sexually harassed by uncles in the home and later defiled and they will not speak up because of fear of being beaten or shouted at by their parents. Mothers are most notorious on this. They will forge marks and edit their report books just to avoid the beating when they go back home. They will be comfortable confiding in other people who care to listen to them without judgement but hide stuff from their parents. The girls will even start having sexual relations in their teenage stages simply because the boys make them feel alive.
When now in campus, they will easily loose direction because the people who were to show them direction only made them feel less. They will get into job environments and will never aspire to grow. Mummy said they will never amount to anything. They will be treated badly in the work places and will never speak up because they grew up knowing that one is not allowed to speak up for themselves. They will get peanuts for salaries and will never speak up because, “if I speak up I will be fired and I don’t want to be jobless. The jobs are not there! ”
The women will loose their voice on everything including relationships. The men they date or marry will always dictate things on them. They will most likely suffer from mental health problems because they will completely lack self love. All these boils down to childhood. It is never just a matter of from rugs to riches. The environment that nurtures them from childhood is a key determinant.
As a parent, it is very important that you cultivate love in your kids by showing it to them. They will grow up knowing love and will not only exercise it on others but on themselves too. They will have confidence in their abilities and will never loose hope. They will have a voice on crucial matters in their lives and will therefore never settle for less. Fear will never crowd their lives and they will therefore exhibit abundance in everything they do.
A word of encouragement to your child will not make you loose hair on your head.